Due to my 2018 University schedule/studies having to take priority I have not kept pages as updated as I would have liked. You may find things slightly outdated. I hope to resume updating the pages in 2019.

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Purrs Like A Kitten: Part 3

1st Half of 2014

One of my favourite stories is Alice in Wonderland, its filled with lots of strange adventures. Has dangers around every corner and is one of the most curious of curious tales to be told. In some ways I view SL as my wonderland and the people and characters I meet can be similar to the characters out of tales. I use SL as a means to role-play so for me my interactions with people are always intended to be fun and flirtatious.

My profile sums it up nicely, "Neko, fiesty, playful, affectionate, earthly nature, poly-amorous nymphet feline, somewhat strange, often a little odd with hints of mischief, naughtiness, nonsense & madness. Some say I am insane, I say its relative to ones own insanity".

This brings me to the whole SL vs RL thing. Yes, its such a touchy subject and I have seen heated arguments in SL over it. So to be totally up front here I really don't care what view others have or if they a-line with mine. If one takes offence then that is not my problem. SL for me will always be a place of role-play and as such the larger computer based gaming community across the world would say its a none linear socially oriented alternate roleplay experience.

I also draw a firm line between RL and SL! Although I do on occasions share some aspects of my RL, I do keep them apart and will never disclose anything that would lead to a merging of those I meet in SL and my RL. There are 2 reasons for this; the first is to honour the decision my RL partner and I made to each other which I briefly explained in Part 2. The second is I want the freedom for SL to continue to be my Alice in Wonderland or as I call it "Lilith's Wonderland" without the complications of unwanted potential drama.

As Alice changes through her journey so has Lilith, she has awakened and accepted her true nature and continues to see were the tale will take her. Lilith is no-longer the Uni administrator who delves into indiscriminate role-play. She has blossomed into the Neko is now known as "Purrs Like A Kitten", hence the name of this blog. I would have been "Purrs Like A Pussy" if I could have set my display name that way. The Lab's in their wisdom have demeed the word "pussy" is defined as an anatomical feature of the female anatomy even though most dictionaries first definition is "a cat, especially a kitten".

As an educated woman I would love to debate with the plebs at the Lab's who made the decision to censorship the word as a "naughty word". I wonder if they see "fanny" as a naughty word considering in North America it is used as a term for buttocks which is in noway offensive whereas in the rest of the world its used the way the Lab's have deemed that the word "pussy" is unacceptable. Rant over...... hehehehe.

This phase of Lilith's journey starts in 2014, once again its all a bit vague until we get closer to the end of 2014. During this time I meet various people, some became closer than others and some even became potential owners of my collar. Lucky for me I am a cautious person who can read people by what they write and how they act around others. This often lead to a decision on my side that ownership of my collar would never be offered.

After several months that all came to a conclusion with an IM discussion about the boots I was wearing and following discussions lead me down a path were I would offer this person ownership of my collar. For me, this meeting awakened an internal desire to learn more about this person. In the back of my mind from day one I had the mind set "Is she the one" and yes I really didn't care if she was a she or a he in RL. To me who she is in SL and can we come together in here as a dom/sub couple work is all that was important.

At this point Miss Colleen is introduced into "Lilith's Wonderland" and brings us to around the end of the 3rd quarter of 2014, an ideal spot to close part 3 of this series.

Purrs Like A Kitten: Part 2

The Middle Years: 2011 - 2014

Thinking back to this period of time its all a bit of a blur. Maybe I was sucked into some singularity by inescapable gravity or did time dilation transcend from SL to RL. Ultimately what I do know is due to RL studies I found myself less and less logging into SL. With the ongoing pressures of study and eventually moving overseas on a University student exchange program I simply stopped using SL.

The most difficult thing during this time was dealing with that fact that I had not clearly informed everyone in SL that RL had to take priority. Looking back I felt guilty for a period of time, people must have thought the worst. My partner assured me that is simply part of the package when it comes to anonymity in a virtual world full of avatars that can choose to disclose or not discloses ones private life.

Overtime, I lost contact with everyone, even my SL partner. Looking back it was possibly a good thing cause it would never have gone further and I really did need to focus on RL. Not to mention it would have been cruel for both of us to even continue to talk about it going further. If I look back analytically I had closed the door on that chapter of my life.

At the start of 2014 situations changed in RL, my partner and I now in a fully committed relationship were a component of our lifestyle had developed into a dom/submissive nature. We both found ourselves struggling with the poly-amorous aspects of our lifestyles. We decided the best solution was to both seek active online communities were anonymity would form a natural barrier of safety and still allow for us both to be poly-amorous and at the same time be very selective in RL with potential 3rd parties. My RL partner rejoined the virtual community she role played as a Dom and I commenced the process of reconnecting with SL, this time as a Submissive.

I was surprised to find my SL partner was still my SL partner and we did discuss the potential to be together in a role play scenario. We even attempted it, however it was not working as there were still feelings on their side that went beyond SL and it would have been wrong to continue. Long story short we had the difficult but necessary conversation and split. That was the end of what was my first and only meaningful SL relationship at the time.

At the same time I simply enjoyed SL. I found myself enjoying the SL live music scene more and more. It soon became the main reason I would log into SL, a place to relax, listen to people sing. Lets not forget the social aspect of these kind of venues, places to meet people, from the good, the bad and the down right creepy.

I started to reconnect with some old friends, overtime I found myself removing most from my friends list. They either nolonger log in or we simply drifted apart. New friendships formed as people crossed my path, some would become close, others just people I see on a regular basis and then others..... "can I puke now!" I now keep my friends list as small as possible applying the same fundamental rule I follow in RL. If over time there becomes a lack of connection from both sides then I remove and move on.

I am not one to prioritise the importance of a friendship over another, however I do have a few close friendships in SL that mean more to me than all the others. Its just a natural part of life. One, has become possibly they only guy I tease and flirt with on a more explicit nature. I am sure he loves the constant game of trying to outwit me even though he knows he will never seduce me. The other would come totally out the blue over a conversation on the boots I was wearing. We connected day one and she would become my SL partner. For now all I will say is she is the main reason I remain in SL, she is my best friend in this virtual world. The one I choose to love, to devote myself too.

I do keep my friends list as small as possible applying the same fundamental rule I follow in RL when it comes to terms with contacts. If over time there becomes a lack of connection from both sides then I remove and move on.

The remaining parts of this series "Purrs Like A Kitten" will bring you from 2014 to the present.